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Sex and relationships in numbers: part one

Ten often-repeated figures about partners, first experiences, orgasm, sleep and contraception-with the context that headlines usually leave out.

These figures come from surveys, older estimates and popular summaries. They describe particular samples, not rules for every person, country or relationship.

  1. One adult survey reported an average of four lifetime partners for women and seven for men. Answers depend strongly on age, culture, sampling and how people interpret the question.
  2. Seventeen is often quoted as an average age for first intercourse in some populations. There is wide variation, and readiness, consent and local law matter more than an average.
  3. A much-repeated 2011 claim said 84% of women sometimes had sex for a practical or relationship benefit rather than pleasure. Without a clearly documented sample and method, this figure deserves particular caution.
  4. Some surveys have reported orgasm at every encounter for 75% of men and 29% of women. The result changes with the activity studied, wording, sample and definition of orgasm.
  5. Erectile difficulties become more common with age, but published estimates vary widely by definition and population. Persistent changes are worth discussing with a clinician.
  6. Among sexually active teenagers in one survey, 70% of girls and 56% of boys said their first experience was with a steady partner. A partner label does not replace clear consent and protection.
  7. A figure of 103 sexual encounters per year is often presented as an adult average. Frequency varies enormously and is not a measure of relationship quality.
  8. Some surveys suggest roughly one in ten married couples sleep separately. Separate sleep can reflect work, health, parenting or a deliberate sleep arrangement-not lack of intimacy.
  9. Some studies find an association between supportive, stable relationships and better sleep in women. Association does not prove that relationship status itself causes better sleep.
  10. An older CDC contraceptive-effectiveness table estimated that about 85% of people who can become pregnant would conceive within a year if they used no contraception. Individual fertility varies.